Embracing My Natural Hair

Natural Hair

I’ve made a vow to myself: I will not be heat styling my hair for 30 days.

The only exception will be if there is a very special circumstance (a wedding, a fancy work event, etc.). If I do that, then I will be using very special shampoo to make sure I don’t get extensive damage during these few exceptions.

The goal of this is to hopefully have hair at the end of 30 days that is rejuvenated, healthy, and all-natural. At that point, my natural texture will be completely back and heat styling my hair will probably be pointless because it looks so good without it.

I’ll be updating frequently with pictures and tutorials on curly styles I’m trying, my hair routine, and all that jazz. Keep reading for a few more personal details on why I’m embarking on this all-natural journey.

Me with my extensions (left) versus my natural hair (right):

I tell my friends to love themselves for who they are. I share articles on social media about loving your body and embracing curves. I’ve talked endlessly with my peers, friends, parents, teachers, and mentors about what a negative influence the media has on women’s self-image.

But how can I complain about people conforming to media’s standard of beauty when I do it myself?

I am a hypocrite.

As many of you know, I have struggled with my hair for a long time. Between it’s lack of growth to it’s weird natural texture, I’m never quite satisfied with it. I straighten, curl, and blow-dry it nonstop. I put extensions in because it refuses to grow. (hmm… there’s clips pulling at the roots of my hair and I wonder why it won’t grow…I’m dumb) Doing all of these crazy things to my hair has become an addiction.

I know this may seem silly to some but I hope this resonates with at least a few people reading. I think we all do things for other people – whether we dress a certain way or buy certain brands. When we take a step back, we realize it’s not really for ourselves as much as it is for other people. When you ask yourself, “Why am I doing this?” and you’re brutally honest, the answer may surprise you.

I’m not saying that every person who heat styles their hair or wears extensions is self-conscious or conforming to society, no. For some, it’s just a fun way to change up their look. I wish that was the case for me (although I kept telling myself it was just for fun).

When I really took a step back to reflect, I realized I was doing all of this crap to my hair because I genuinely thought people liked me better because of it.

Realizing that, I felt stupid. Why do I even care about the opinions of people who would prefer me to be something I’m not? Why don’t I value those who love me for who I am naturally (curly hair and all!)?

So I let go. I let go of what others think of me. If somebody decides they don’t like me as much just based off of the texture or style of my hair, then I don’t want them in my life. It’s as simple as that.

The people who truly love you won’t care what you look like.

I hope y’all love me because it’s about to be a curly, frizzy mess on my blog for the next month!

Have you ever struggled with an aspect of your appearance? What have you done to cope with that?

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  • Awesome! My natural hair is extremely similar to yours, and I’ve been wearing it natural for a few years now. I used to straighten every day, and I had extensions at one point too! But I am so much happier with my natural hair, and it’s so much more low maintenance, haha! I can’t wait to see some of your curly-haired styles; I’m definitely in need of some more! :)


    • Awe I’m so happy to hear that you’ve grown to love it now! I can’t wait until I’m at that point! Thanks for being so encouraging! (:

  • Abbie

    This is amazing-I felt like you were describing my hair. It’s encouraging to know I’m not the only one who struggles with slow to grow, strange texture hair. We should start a support group haha. I’m excited to hear how your 30 days goes. Will you share what the special shampoo you’re using is? Feel free to PM me if you prefer!


    The Pink Paperdoll

    • I’m so glad to hear that you feel encouraged!! And YES I’m down for a support group haha! I’m using Deva Curl for when I leave it naturally and then Kerastase shampoo for the few times I do heat style it. Here’s a link: I hope that helps!! xo

  • I moved to New Zealand for a year and a half and during that time I barely ever heat styled my hair. Mostly because it was hot a lot and I would just put it up anyways or I just didn’t care, haha. It grew SO long and so quickly, compared to how long it would take trying to grow it out while still styling it. I cut my hair short a couple months ago and am back to trying to grow it out (stupid, haha) but it’s hard not to style it when it’s short because my natural wave makes it look mom flippy and awful haha.

    • UGH I hate the mom flip haha. It’s so hard to deal with! That’s so great that you had such success with your hair growing when you left it natural though – very encouraging!! xo

  • Sarah

    I think your hair is beautiful! Good luck with the challenge — I know I hate my hair. I rarely heat style it and it’s always a mess.

  • Great post! I too struggled with my hair as well. It used to be really pretty, bouncy ACTUAL ringlet curls and because of all the straightening I did on it and all the chemicals I put on it, it’s now not as curly which makes me sad.

    I love when people wear they’re hair natural! Even African women who have fros! I think it’s seriously awesome.

    Your natural hair is also really pretty as well. I’m glad you decided to do this! Maybe once you get many compliments on how people like your hair, and after not putting heat on it for a month, maybe you will learn how to love it :).

    Good luck!


    • Thank you so much Shree! I think that if you gave your hair a break from all the straightening you’d be surprised how fast it bounced back (: That’s what I’ve found with mine!

      I’m now on the second week of this challenge and it’s definitely difficult but I’m hanging in there! I’m trying to learn to love it!

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